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A Template for Healing – Part 2

by Taru Fisher on September 19, 2012

Last weekend I attended the NLP IASH (Institute for Advanced Studies in Health) Conference where two of the world leaders in NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming), Kris and Tim Hallbom, shared their latest work on healing, called a “template for healing”. Their presentation was powerful and moving, and I want to share it with you. There’s a lot, so I have split it up into three parts. Part 1 was posted on September 16th. Here’s part 2:

  • For the NLP people out there, they suggested you make a list of all the NLP processes that can be used to heal so you remember to use them if the need arises. When we are ill, we tend to forget the resources we have for healing. Some of the best are hypnotic processes with an “as if” frame and creating a compelling future for when you are healed.
  • Praying, blessing or visualizing healing for others not only helps them, it helps you and turns the focus away from identification with your particular health challenge.
  • Have a dialog with any of the organs affected by your condition and ask them how they are doing. Negotiate with your body parts and get a sense of inner support.
  • Hold a positive space and don’t go to where the worst case scenario lives in your head.
  • A core question to keep asking yourself is “What is my best possible outcome?’ as it directs your attention in a powerful and positive way.
  • A compelling future should be created and used in hypnosis. Include the following elements:

– physically
– socially
– mentally
– emotions/states of mind
– spiritually

In Part 3, I’ll talk about life style changes, give some other resources, and talk about the recovery phase if you’ve had some sort of surgical intervention.

Comments and questions are welcomed. I’ll do my best to answer them and even ask the experts if need be.

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A Template for Healing – Part 1

by Taru Fisher on September 16, 2012

This weekend I had the privilege of attending the NLP IASH Conference and hearing two of the world leaders in NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming), Kris and Tim Hallbom, share their latest work on healing. Their presentation was powerful and moving. They call it a “template for healing”, and I want to share it with you. There’s a lot, so I will split it up into three parts. Here’s part 1:

  • Take responsibility for your condition and let go of resentment, anger and blame. Those kinds of emotions release chemicals that sabotage the healing process.
  • Don’t allow your disease/condition define who you are.
  • Become friends with your diagnosis, and welcome it as having a positive purpose. For example, instead of saying I have a large tumor, re-name it as being a healing, shrinking part of my body. Make it a positive representation rather than a frightening one.
  • Be grateful to the condition for warning you by saying to it, “thank you for my healing”.
  • Carefully figure out who your support team is. Make sure they are hopeful, positive, supportive people who won’t require your support. Your pet may even be a part of your team!
  • Create a simple story (but true) to tell others and especially yourself. Avoid the negative details, and make it matter of fact.
  • Check to see where you are now and what could prevent you from healing. Take on each one and do some work with re-imprinting around it and/or changing limiting beliefs.
  • If you know how to use eye movement integration and/or Dynamic Spin Release, use these tools to provide first aid when feeling panic or fear.
  • Hold both ends of the healing spectrum, healing and NOT healing; acknowledge the shadow side of your condition where you may not heal. This is not to dwell on the shadow, but to merely acknowledge that the possibility exists.

As someone who has a chronic condition (Rheumatoid Arthritis) and who has successfully dis-identified with it, this was so very helpful. It gave me more tools to effect an even greater healing. Good stuff, really good stuff!

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What is Success After 60?

by Taru Fisher on June 7, 2012

A few years ago I had an epiphany about my definition of success. I was no longer motivated to be successful in the same ways I had been. My values had changed, as well as my stamina to pursue the same goals. I found myself becoming quieter, more reflective and wanting to contribute more to the world instead of my bottom line. It scared me, really scared me, and for a time I struggled with feelings of laziness, and self-recrimination for not being the achiever I had been.

There are so many cultural memes that denigrate older women; just watch the commercials on TV and other media. We older women are portrayed as mainly concerned with our looks, or less capable, or less active. These both create and perpetuate the myths around the aging woman.

But, with the quiet spaces and introspection came new understandings of how I wanted to change my life, and clarified my life’s purpose. I wanted to slow down and be present in my daily life, and help women through life’s transitions, especially women entering what I call their “elder-womanhood “.

We’ve all had some kind of definition of success by which we’ve measured our activities. Now that we are mature, wise women, think about how this has changed for you. Think about what defined success even 5 or 10 years ago. How is it different now?
Or, is it different? I’d love to know!

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A Mother’s Promise

by Taru Fisher on May 18, 2012

For the past several days I have been back in the throes of grief and overcome by unexpected bursts of crying. It started so innocently in a phone conversation with a perfect stranger, a commercial realtor with whom I was discussing a possible space for our studio to move. I mentioned I admired the son of the property owner for taking such good care of his Father by being an active participant in the process. I began to say “I have three sons”… and I couldn’t finish the sentence. I began to sob, and then to apologize.

Last evening I attended an event where the subject was sugar addition and it’s relation to Metabolic Syndrome and, in particular, Diabetes. As Dr. Miller continued to reveal the havoc sugar takes on one’s body, and how Diabetes eventually destroys it, I was once again overcome and had to leave. My son, Mike, died from the complications of Diabetes; renal failure and a staph infection that made its’ way into his heart.

As I got into the car, I broke down and realized I have been addicted to sugar for a long time, and have not taken care of myself as I should. I felt as if Mikey was there, looking down at me and saying with such immense love, “Mom you need to take care of yourself. You are in danger, and you know it.”

In that moment I made a promise to immediately stop eating sugar laden foods and do whatever I can do to promote education about diabetes. It is one of the fastest growing diseases, and our addiction to sugar and processed foods that contain high fructose corn syrup is killing us and our children.

To that end, I am participating in the following event, Step Out: Walk to Stop Diabetes…by joining “Team Skid” to honor Mike and to raise money to help fight diabetes. My son, Tony, got the ball rolling for this, and I want to get as many people as possible to participate. If you can’t make the walk, you can still donate any amount to this organization.

Many of my friends have asked me what they can do to help, and I did not know what to say. Now I do; participate in the event or donate any amount you can.

To join the team or just donate, go to http://main.diabetes.org/site/TR/StepOut/SanJoseArea?px=7786026&pg=personal&fr_id=8433 where you can choose to “Donate to Taru”, “Join Taru’s Team”, or “View Taru’s Team Page”. This is my personal sub-group of my son’s Team Skid.

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What Can I Say…Or Do?

April 19, 2012

Since my last post, I have been asked what can one say or do for someone who is grieving. I thought I could rattle something off, but I discovered it was not that easy. I had to go back in my mind and remember what had helped and what had not.
First, I’m going to get […]

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Grief: A Mother’s Story

March 29, 2012

I haven’t posted for awhile; my son Mike’s illness and subsequent death late last year left me stunned and silent from the nearly unremitting grief. I felt unmotivated to write anything, even the auto-biographical book I had finally begun to flesh out.
It has been like being on a roller coaster, uncontrollable, one minute up […]

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Entering the 7th Decade of my Life

January 1, 2012

As I enter the year where I will reach the 7th decade of my life, I look back and reflect upon what lessons I have learned in 2011.
First, always take time to be with your family and close friends in a loving way. Nothing is more important than letting the people you love know […]

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I’m Yawning! Am I bored?

November 10, 2011

According to Andrew Newberg, MD, a leading Neuroscientist and co-author with Mark Robert Waldman of  ”How God Changes Your Brain: Breakthrough Findings From a Leading Neuroscientist”, the fifth best way to exercise your brain is by yawning. Yes, he said “yawning” and goes on to say it is one of the best kept secrets in […]

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Illness & Stress: A Coach’s Tale

February 10, 2011

This is the first article in a series on stress and its’ effect on our health. The women in transition that I coach are all under a lot of stress as they re-define their lives. However, it’s my observation that life in Silicon Valley creates stress on both women and men, especially during these […]

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5 Reasons New Year’s Resolutions Often Don’t Last

December 28, 2010

It’s that time of year when we start thinking about what we want to change in the new year, and we typically make a New Years Resolution. Somehow, mysteriously, many of our resolutions falter and fail to materialize. If you’ve ever wondered why, many of us blame it on our lack of “willpower” and beat […]

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